Originally Posted by jkelly
As an aside, this sounds weird to me. Relationships don't actually work this way, at least in my experience. If someone leaves, you mourn the relationship with that person, and while it is always nice to have someone who can support you in that process, it's not like having a backup stereo system in case you blow the speakers out. Relationships are unique.
I'd find it pretty unsettling if my partner said something that made it sound like they thought of relationships as disposable.
So true! This fits with my experience as well. I've been dumped while in a monogamous pair and also while with my present partner of almost 15 years. Neither experience was less painful.