I am still relatively new to this (3 months), but for me the biggest learning curve has been that I have to be willing to give what I am asking for. If I want my husband and L to listen to my feelings without becoming defensive or frustrated, then I have to be willing to do the same.
Another lovely thing learned has been just what a truly amazing man my husband is. I have watched him tackle seriously uncomfortable emotions that he was not expecting, and do it while consistently telling us that he is not going anywhere. I have learned how strong and present he can be, even when dealing with emotions that would send most people running for the hills.
And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair
- Kahlil Gibran