I am a recent convert to the poly life style. I am married and have three kids. My wife and i decided in January this was the path we wanted to take. Since then my wife has had a SO and i did at one time. My insecurities and inability to cope with some feelings led to disaster. Everything is now sorted out. Unfortunately my SO decided she could not handle the being with me. I am still convinced that this is the right decision for my wife and I but still have some issues. Hopefully being here and talking to others will help with that....