I like what you are saying GS, I spoke with Nerdiat about this this morning and he said something along the same lines. I encouraged him to write about it on here as he has a book to add along these lines and lots of insight as a result of reading it. We shall see.
I occurred to me that there is also the added component of asking that an un-merged person, or anyone coming into my life for that matter, take care of their own lives and be independent. When an un-merged person is able to do that, then the attitude that comes along with it suits the situation where they could get along well in a relationship with someone that is merged.
I am looking for ways of talking about this with someone who is un-merged also. It seems to be so difficult to express/communicate with someone who doesn't fully grasp what it means to be merged.
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