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Old 06-11-2010, 04:33 AM
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Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG View Post
Is this a tangent or related?
Completely related, Mono. Thank you for sharing. I really appreciate how vulnerable you make yourself. I learn from that. I can appreciate what it must have been like for you to leave your wife.

Yep, being alone can be amazing and it's so important to be happy with yourself. When I used to hear this, I used to hear it as "being happy with yourself is a stepping stone towards being partnered". Now I really hear it and I am happy with myself. There are no gaps anymore.

I gave up my beautiful home and moved several hundred kilometers away to be with my ex nearly two years ago now. I was 30 and couldn't bare the thought of never becoming a mother, always being alone. I fell for his story and dove in with both feet. What a lesson! Not only did it not work out, but the experience has left me rootless and ungrounded for a while now. Have I ever learned to be happy with myself!

I see now how being partnered does not make you more complete and it does not cure loneliness. Loneliness is like happiness, it's a state of mind. It's internal.

I think that having a strong sense of self and a sense of independence is needed for a successful LDR.
My heart is too big to fit into one person.
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