Originally Posted by redpepper
It seems that there are those who have are doing the merged with other people thing in terms of kids, marriage/long term relationship commitment, finances and those that are not merged with anyone in this way yet, or have and are not now, or don't intend to be.
I don't think I understand what you're getting at. Dating someone with kids is a completely different experience than dating someone who doesn't have them.
Dating someone who is involved in a long-term serious relationship is a completely different experience than dating someone who doesn't have one.
But I don't think that these two things have a lot in common, and I don't have any idea what they might have to do with finances.
I mean, I've dated a single mother, I've dated someone with a long-term primary, and I've mingled my finances with a partner. But sharing a bank account was an entirely different experience than trying to co-parent.