Originally Posted by GroundedSpirit
Let's say you have a single GF - maybe with a child or two - maybe not. You are having a conversation over coffee (or tequila) and the subject turns to relationships. She's telling you she hates being alone and is having little luck finding a 'classical' mate.
Do you open the topic of poly - and how it could be a legitimate option for her to build intimacy and a strong support system ? And start the education by offering examples of how that can happen.
Ok this happens to me a lot. In fact our ex ended up creating this scenario for us and in turn we tried to introduce her to it. She outright refuses to accept it as a life for her. She wants that vision of 4 kids, house, knight in shining armour to marry her and for her to be the stay at home mom. She wants this so much I believe she is walking right past a lot of opportunity for love.
Luckily for her, she is smart and picky. She won't and hasn't just jumped on the first man to try and woo her. She is waiting for that connection. Kudos to her for that
This is a TRUE questions for all you ladies that have (or don't have) these opportunities. How often do you expose this alternative (even without explaining your own personal discovery) ?
does this preclude men from answering
I have a lot of female friends in the EXACT position as described, at various ages in various stages. In all cases they have expectations that they want to have met. Like checklists of life. Instead of being open to love, they are simply open to loving predescribed requirements.
The negative affect that has, as they get older, they drop some of their requirements, my concern for them is the eventual partner they find is no longer awesome for them, but simply a warm body so they can avoid the loneliness...