Thread: Lying to myself
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Old 06-10-2010, 01:25 AM
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Originally Posted by SchrodingersCat View Post
If I was dating someone whose partner was having a hard time, I would want to know if the partner was expected to call her. Then I would make sure he did. What's 5 minutes out of my weekend if it will help a suffering partner have some peace of mind?
I agree with this and I follow this also. When I am with Charles and Holland is at home, I ask him to call her occassionally just to check in. He looks at me gratefully as if he wanted to but didn't want to make me uncomfortable. I know it helps her and he appreciates me for suggesting it.

One time, they had an argument on the phone while he and I were together. I helped him work through it....helping him understand her position and he said it made him feel closer to me!
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