Originally Posted by SchrodingersCat
If I was dating someone whose partner was having a hard time, I would want to know if the partner was expected to call her. Then I would make sure he did. What's 5 minutes out of my weekend if it will help a suffering partner have some peace of mind?
I agree with this and I follow this also. When I am with Charles and Holland is at home, I ask him to call her occassionally just to check in. He looks at me gratefully as if he wanted to but didn't want to make me uncomfortable. I know it helps her and he appreciates me for suggesting it.
One time, they had an argument on the phone while he and I were together. I helped him work through it....helping him understand her position and he said it made him feel closer to me!