That's wonderful Derby!! The feeling of belonging is so primal, eh? I've been questioning this a LOT in myself lately, so it's very nice to hear you say this. I feel very happy for you and all your links in the chain... I know I'm kind of one of them, but not feeling solid enough to really feel it yet.
It really rings true: it doesn't have to be one or the other...
My heart is too big to fit into one person.