Thanks BL, I like what you say about it not being a debate, but just telling a decision.
We are already working on a "never know" list which unfortunately, at present, include basically all of Cajun's family. It's hard, but considering his parents never really approved of me, something like this would just send them into hysterics and I won't expose our children to that.
For us, it's more of a "need to know" type of situation. My mom would need to know. Other than that, we will deal with each person in our life individually as to whether or not it may affect them in some way.
Life is about the journey and not the destination,
so what better way to know life
than to wander all the roads and paths set before you.