Originally Posted by redsirenn
... The more I think about my past relationships, and my tendency to ALWAYS develop feelings for someone else and jump immediately from one relationship to another because I thought that was the only thing I COULD do, is adding to this realization.
You're afraid that developing feelings for somebody new would mean you'd jump into that relationship to the detriment of your existing relationship?
And then projecting that fear onto O, fearing that he would jump into a new relationship at the expense of your existing relationship?
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.