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Old 06-06-2010, 06:27 AM
jkelly jkelly is offline
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Originally Posted by Ariakas View Post
Person 2 falls in love with person 1
person 1 doesn't want to loose the sex

Series of many uncomfortable nights, rebound days and months...turn into the two people not being able to talk. Friendship disolves.
That's probably a common story to tell, but it posits that sex is the thing that caused the falling in love, which I don't buy. It also posits that the friendship would have continued indefinitely if it hadn't been for the person wanting sex actually getting it, which I also don't buy.

There are a lot of platonic friendships out there that look an awful lot like poly- relationships, and they take communication, honesty, commitment, time and energy. It's questionable to point to sex as the thing to blame when the real problem is mismatched needs and a failure to communicate and negotiate.
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