Originally Posted by DD123
So if I'm in a more serious relationship with someone who's bothered by that .... it feels like there's no right answer. What do you think?
Well, you could choose to date only people who aren't bothered by that.
Or you could accept that you're going to bother your partner from time to time. We all do, and I think that there's sometimes a weird emphasis on jealousy as something that must be avoided at all costs, as compared to all other kinds of bother.
Or you could use all the information and resources out there about working through jealousy and put that stuff to use in your relationship.