perhaps this whole poly thing isn't for her? In that case you've got a problem on your hands. You all do! That is tough, I can't imagine how that must make you feel to feel as if you are second fiddle.... I don't know if I would bother with it, but then I don't settle with anything! Life is too short to be feeling anything but the best you can and to do that, I expect the best and give my best every time.
I hope someone can shed more light than I with their own personal stories...
good luck dear... *hugs*
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