I don't have a clue.
What I do know is that I am a poly woman-and not only do I "Happen to be in love with two men", but I've always been poly-natured.
HOWEVER-I do know that one reason poly men have a hard time getting in a relationship with me is the same reason mono men have a hard time getting in a relationship with me.
I am disgusted by men whose focus is on "getting in a relationship" instead of "getting to know ME".
The focus is SO wrong. Damn near every poly man I've met IN PERSON has been so focused on the getting of A woman, that he wasn't focused on taking time to get to know any of the women who crossed his path. Just too much attention on the IDEA of having another woman and not enough attention on the REALITY of WHO THAT WOMAN IN FRONT OF YOU REALLY IS.
"Love As Thou Wilt"