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Old 06-04-2010, 08:53 AM
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The ultimatum bothers me. Telling someone to feel a certain way or else leave the relationship is a sad way to dump the responsibility of her choices onto you.

It's understandable that she'd want to explore this relationship, but after a 20-year investment and sounding like there's still a lot of love between you, she has some responsibility towards you to help you get through this.

Or if she's too selfish to want to help you get through this, then she has a responsibility to take accountability for ending the relationship.

She says this is just for fun, but it doesn't sound like that to me. I say so because of the ultimatum. If it was just for fun, then the difficulty you're having with it should supersede a little fun.
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