Originally Posted by JRiverMartin
That's a lot different from feeling insecure about my lover/wife/husband sharing deep and even sexual intimacy with another, which is the main fear mono- types often have. That fear isn't necessary, of course. But knowing that is a learning curve process. It takes time!
With all respect, sometimes I really think people just don't get it. Polyamory simply isn't for every one, not everyone wants it or has the potential for it. Everything comes down to fear and insecurity when a mono voices that they simply aren't interested. It has apparently nothing to do with another view of commitment, needing intimate fidelity, and putting your partners heart before your own..that is how some people love. Mono needs are not selfish and always based on fear, they are simply different.
Some times you just have to go seperate ways.