Redpepper- I guess it's all just about labels and how we use them and what we're comfortable with. FWB didn't bother me, so FWB we were. What was most important to me was the focus on the fact we WERE FRIENDS.*shrug*
Redsiren- Good luck with the meeting. When I met N's other at the beginning of our relationship (before we went mono) I HATED the woman. She deserved it completely. I remember how nervous I was about it though and how hard it was to even think about, and we'd been together 4 months before I did and them on and off for a few years. You're braver than I.