Originally Posted by RazeGeneration
That's not necessarily the case, as you said "Every case is different"
It's quite possible that this woman is just simply monogamous, she tried to be accepting of her husbands alternate lifestyle and it simply didn't work for her. To say that because she doesn't want to be in a poly relationship means she must be insecure is kinda judgemental... but hey i could be wrong
RazeGeneration- You are not reading my response correctly. I'm not being judgemental. I'm stating a fact about a person I know. Holland is very insecure with herself and was insecure before she met Charles. I do agree that some people may be well adjusted and have an inner sense of security and peace. The idea of poly would be a thing which would shake their world and they might decide they are unwilling to live the lifestyle. So that is a decision they can make. When I share, I try to stick to things I know for certain and I know for certain that Holland is very insecure with herself......with or without the idea of a poly relationship. That's all I'm saying.
The key to life is in being fully engaged and peacefully detached simultaneously and authentically in each moment.
Last edited by idealist; 06-03-2010 at 01:57 PM.