Originally Posted by redpepper
Besides, sometimes people think I am talking about them when I'm not....
Folks will infer all sorts of silly stuff that have nothing to do with what you say. If, at a party with well over a hundred guests, you were to say "Somebody at this party is likely to be communist," indubitably somebody will pop off with a nonsensical "Why are you calling all my friends commies?!"
Foolishness happens. It's not your fault if somebody else reads all sorts of foolishness into what you say--it's entirely their foolishness.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.