Originally Posted by JRiverMartin
Is your communication with your husband otherwise good? Do you feel that he's able and willing to hear you and appreciate your expressed desires and needs, generally?
Does he clearly express his own desires, fears, hopes...?
How do you generally respond to these?
You say he has put up a "wall" on this subject. How does this "wall" feel to you? Can you tell him how that "wall" feels?
Oh My! I read this reply and it really struck me. These questions are really tough for me to answer. This intrigues me. I have never asked him to understand the walls he puts up. I just assume he knows he's doing it and how it can be hurtful. However, as we all know, when you assume, you make an Ass out of U and Me. Thank you for the awesome suggestion. I hope the conversation is good for both me and my husband. Might open up some things we didn't even know were there!