Thankyou for all the advice and kind words
I guess I've got a lot to lean (Well all 3 of us have) and I just need to see how things go.
I spoke to my husband about what he wants to happen on the holiday... does he mind if I cuddle my gf in public, who's room am I going to sleep in, how much time should I spend with each?
He seems pretty laid back about it all, but I've asked that he's honest, and tells me if he feels uncomfortable at all, as I can't do things differently if I'm not aware of it...
My gf knows what a wonderful man my husband is, infact she is the one responsible for getting us together in the first place!!! I'm not quite sure how to breach a lot of subjects with her, but have sent her a nice parcel in the post and am hoping to be able to use the conversation that follows on from that to talk about what she wants/doesn't want from me.
I have a baby and other comitments, but feel I have time to dedicate to her as well as my husband and everything else (We already speak for about an hour a day on the phone!)
I'm also not quite sure what to call her in public, or what to say to friends. Most of my friends are very open minded, and most knew we had something going on anyway. But her friends are perhaps not so... but thats something I need to talk to her further about.
Anyway, thanks again for all your support