everything really has been said already, but I wanted to add that I think she is just new to all this and needs time and patience with the slow process of educating herself. Everything you said so far indicates that she is one her way and that you know enough to give her some ideas of how it all works... I suggest she do her own research, especially if she figures that what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
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