Originally Posted by DD123
Exactly! How did you learn to overcome those feelings without hurting your partner and without hurting yourself?
Well, at that time I can't say I did much without hurting my partner, but that's a different story.
I think it is just a matter of seeing your own uniqueness and loving it in yourself. The old adage of loving yourself. Finding it within rather than through external validation. Each and every time I have ever sought or attached to validation from anything outside myself, I've been pulled away from my own strength.
Are you any less special if she doesn't think so? If she sees in you what you love in yourself, does it make you any less if she sees something that she loves in someone else?
I relate to questioning whether or not you can be intimate with more than one person. If you get a chance to explore it, it will either feel right or it won't. (duh, don't I sound so wise, LOL)