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Old 05-24-2010, 10:11 PM
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My husband and I, have been married for 14 yrs, the last year and a half horrible.
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My ideal of what would happen would that I would meet someone dominant who would be in a triad with my husband and I. I told my husband that and he said that he didn't think that would happen.
This sounds to me like a classic "relationship broken, add more people" idea, which often doesn't end well.

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I suddenly had clarity that we/he needed to accept that he is submissive and he isn't broken like he always states.
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My husband isn't going to say he is bicurious, but he is.
This sounds to me like you're not listening to what he is saying to you. If I told my partner about my personality and my sexual orientation and they responded by coming up with new, different labels for me, I would feel very pessimistic about getting through to them.

I'm sorry to hear that your relationship has been going through a rough time, and I think it's great that you're trying to work on the issues. I'd recommend a (ideally poly-friendly) couple's counsellor to help with it.
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