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Old 05-24-2010, 03:30 PM
NeonKaos NeonKaos is offline
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Originally Posted by DharmaBum23 View Post

If you are already making yourself happy, why would you want to date someone else(in a poly or monogamous context)?

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it would be a much more reasonable goal to try to be content when not with another person with the idea that the reward for the insane risks that come with dating is a form of happiness that you cannot achieve while single.
Yes, dating is a form of happiness that one cannot achieve by being single.

Yes, it's better to be happy with, in, and of oneself than to rely on others to do it for you.

Are you saying that these two things are somehow mutually exclusive? I do not see it that way. What people have been saying all along is:

Better relationships are to be had when all the people involved are fulfilled and complete as individuals who can stand on their own merit without requiring the relationship to define who they are.
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