Originally Posted by Ariakas
People can change their minds, maybe those feelings were feeling she was feeling. Maybe she was showing you guys the love she felt because of how much you were supporting her. Maybe she liked the idea and became uncomfortable?...she may well have never been able to describe how she felt when you first told her your feelings because she didn't know. Thats not a lack of honesty. There is a time to process something like this.
who knows, shit happens. My story reads very similar to yours in a lot of ways. A couple of specific things that red flag for me
Really, it sounds like you did build expectations. The usual nice guy/girl curse. Doing all the right things, helping all the right ways, showing friendship....when things don't go the way you hope you find yourself having negative reactions. Sorry if that truly isnt true, but it comes across a bit.
Vandalin is very right. I have female friends that are extremely flirty, however there is no sex involved. Touching, snuggling etc. Our ex is still very touchy with Pengrah...however the understanding of friendship only is accepted now.
In the end, continue loving her and who knows, maybe she will come to love you back, as more than friends. Just leave yourself open to it. Best of luck in your search and your healing.
I agree and disagree to some point. Through all of this we told her we want to see her happy and want what she wants for herself. We told her we were not trying to stop her from having the things she wanted in life such as a family, kids and so on.
She would come to our house and be there from 9:30 am to 12 am. We would let her use our free internet and she would sit there and rub it in our face she was talking to other guys. We pretty much told her that she could do what we wanted we just wanted to know how she felt because she was coming off one way at times and another at other times. She emailed me and told me that she thinks things when she is drunk that would nto happen when she was sober. And after touchin my guy she tells him to his face he is just not her type.
Prior to her kissing me and so on she had never told me she loved me or told me she would text me when she made it home every night.
She told me at one point she had feelings that would come out with time.
To me it is almost like she is afraid it wouldnt be excepted. I am not sure.
Neither one of us wanted to stop her from those things and we made that clear to her as well.
It is just hard to be friends with someone who lies to you and doesnt make you a priority they just make you an option when all she has ever been to us is a priority.