Originally Posted by GroundedSpirit
Whatever is appropriate for the given audience. And sometimes it may just be their proper name and leave the audience to twist it in whatever direction their minds are capable of
For us three, my husband is my man and my (.........) is my "second man", but at least I say that with a twinkle, because emotionally he´s not secondary to me. With other people, I often use other terms, as Grounded Spirit has put it - it depends on the audience.
Some people I´m not so closely related with or of whom I know they would never ever understand poly, don´t even know about our situation. For them, he´s just my best friend.
For me personally, when I try to describe my feelings, he´s one of the two men I love most in the world, and the female, melancholic, elvish part of the whole.