I call him by name when talking to others.
IF someone asks about our relationship-he's my boyfriend.
But I HATE that term and would prefer not to use it-so I don't OFFER it that way.
Often I'll say he's my best friend-because HE IS my best friend. But ONLY if it's not going to leave the situation feeling/looking like I lied in terms of not acknowledging the depth of our relationship.
I never lie about us being committed lovers.
"Love As Thou Wilt"