And the other side of that coin is getting so caught up in trying to 'connect' with others (physically, emotionally, etc.) because you get that awesome rush of NRE, that you really aren't paying attention to growing as an individual...you're simply grasping for any liquid to quench your thirst.
I didn't want to come across as judging Cori, but I think she needs to really question her motives here. In my perspective being poly is about creating loving healthy multiple relationships...I know in my situation I made a choice (and it isn't easy) to completely back off of the attraction I had for my friend. I'm working hard to see if that's something I can bring into my life, but knowing that i'm also bringing it into my husband's. Making sure my home and my family has stability comes first.