Originally Posted by Zenchild
am I investing as much energy into growing as an individual as I am in my relationships?
Good question Zen. It's kind of like the being your own primary. Investing in ourselves is the first thing to do for any of us I think. The trouble comes when we get selfish with that and forget that we have others to keep in mind. We also need to not harm/hinder others. If someone harms us or doesn't think about our best interest, it doesn't mean it is the right thing to start doing things that will harm them in return. The returns on that aren't good and we have essentially become them.