As a Mom myself it is ultra important that I meet my kids needs before I meet anyone else's. This has been a long standing agreement between Breathes and myself--my kids come first, him second. It's also an agreement with Possibility and myself. He has two young kids, mine are teens, and they ALWAYS come first. Sometimes we even squeeze in some together time by taking the kids so their mom can have a breather or so she can have some one on one time with their partner.