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Originally Posted by Searching
I wanted to say to him...how hard would it have been to pick up the damn phone and call me before you went over there but I really just don't have the energy to do it anymore. I don't know how to be any clearer as I have explained what I need to feel comfortable and respected over and over again. I feel he is just hoping I will give up on my needs and let him do whatever he wants whenever he wants. Really at this point the only thing I am thinking of giving up is the relationship.
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Have you not already given up on your needs if you decided not to bother trying to be clear?
I'm not hearing that there is *policing* going on Switchditch. She has tried to talk to him about needing respect for her boundaries and he hasn't bothered to listen or act respectfully as far as I can see. I'm not getting where you think she is making the rules...
yes it is unbalanced, but as far as I can see it's his lack of interest in communicating his needs and lack of caring for anyone but himself.
Of course there is only one story here.