I have to say I feel similar to Ariakas.
My oldest daughter is 18. If she told me she was in a happy, healthy monogomous relationship-I'd be happy for her. IF she told me she was in a happy healthy polyamorous relationship-I'd be happy for her.
I don't want my daughter to give up her dignity either. In my life I have given up my dignity a few times for relationships-all of them were monogomous... My polyamory has never forced me to give up my dignity....