What if your husband is not the type that can separate sex from emotion, what if who he chooses to be with is not. What you speak of is not the kind of poly I am accustom to. It sounds more like you would like an open marriage where by he can have sex with out you being involved. Poly is about "loving" more than one. There is a difference there to me. What you are embarking on is a very different journey if you think about your husband developing feelings and closeness with another. Not just getting off every once in awhile with someone else.
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