I don't think J totally counts as a secondary but there is a stronger emotional connection than if he were a tertiary, so for now I'll use that term. Usually I get to see him once a week for a day or an evening. I would like more but T is very uneasy about the amount of time I spend with him. So I have another question to piggy back off this one.
How much control does your primary have over when/how often you get to see your secondary?