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Old 05-15-2010, 11:18 AM
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Originally Posted by gingerylocks View Post
... The question is: do I communicate this timeline to him? Obviously it sounds like an ultimatum (which it isn't really, but it might give him the incentive needed to come to a decision. The decision being does he want to continue as shagbuddies or make some kind of committment?) ...
I've been following your thread Gingerlocks as it sounds familiar to me. You don't have to give him an ultimatum. In fact, that will most likely result in shutting down any communication. Why not approach it as revisiting your agreement? I have to do this periodically whenever I hear or sense that the relationship has changed. I would even use the word "revisit". And according to one book on communicating, the word 'would' is more effective than the word 'could'.
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