Originally Posted by CielDuMatin
Yeah, that's got "fail" written all over it, doesn't it? Thing is, from my perspective, that's not even poly-specific - that's lousy behaviour in ANY relationship.
Sort of my point. I'm not sure if there are many poly-specific tips that wouldn't also apply to any relationship. For example, dating is important whether your relationship is monogamous or not. A lot of couples become so comfortable that they forget to date each other once in a while, and then wonder why they don't feel all that special together anymore. If you want a third but are afraid of losing something special with your existing partner, I'd suggest existing partners remember to date each other too. The point is to focus on experiencing good stuff instead of worrying about losing stuff.