Sorry to hear about this issue you have had Kari. Keep your head high though. You and your husband will find another. One thing I have found, is that there is ALWAYS someone for everyone....and we often are able to find a second someone if we only take the time to look for them. In your case, it may be even a THIRD someone. So keep your chin up and look to the future and try not to harp on the past. What's happened, has happened already and you can't change it....But you CAN learn from it and be more prepared in the future.
Don't build the waqlls too high though...Or they may be too tall for anyone to climb over.
Best of luck in your future endeavours Kari.
T & L