Originally Posted by thunkybunny
From what I've experienced and read elsewhere, it seems that a lot of people don the 'poly' label and ideologies to avoid doing the most basic work of relating like communication. "You own your feelings", etc.
I totally agree with you - I have seen some very destructive people (either to themselves or others) don the poly mantle because they failed at a monogamous relationship.
This is why, when I meet a poly person, I don't automatically think that they have to have more integrity, compassion, or even general humaneness than the average person. I observe and learn.
I even know one so-called poly person who is a control freak - it seems like his reason for being poly is just the feeling of power at being able to manipulate more than one woman at a time. His poly is most definitely not mine.