From what I've experienced and read elsewhere, it seems that a lot of people don the 'poly' label and ideologies to avoid doing the most basic work of relating like communication. "You own your feelings", etc. Pretty insane considering the unsafe behaviors that accompany such attitudes. I find that very troubling. Hard to get much traction for a social movement when such people leave trails of potential death and destruction behind them. I fear that as open relationships catch on, more and more irresponsible people will abuse the 'poly' label. I'll use better judgment next time.
My friend and I agree that this article captures my experience perfectly: http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/polypeople.shtml