Originally Posted by CielDuMatin
As long as we're not trying to come up with some universal set of rules, foundations, paradigms and principles (whatever we choose to call them), then I am fine. I was starting to see some pretty broad generalisations and I don't think it behooves us to get into "the right way to do poly" territory.
So, then what is, in your view, wrong with Ariakas' suggestion
love - check
ability to love multiple - check
trust/honesty - check
communication - check
my poly is not your poly - check
As far as I can see, the only disagreement is to whether something like balance(equity/symmetry should be added. Not as a testing criterion, as many seem to think, but as a basic principle - which it may seem some would think is unneccessary, as it is so obvious.