Originally Posted by Ariakas
For me this statement is something I have had to learn. To be clear, I have never been "in love" and not sexually attracted to someone. For me they go hand in hand, 100% of the time.
I have had to force my brain to rewire itself so this isn't the case. I can't stop myself from being in love with my friend, but its requiring a lot of work to turn off the sexual desire...so far, I am slowly winning that battle. But I have to say, it is a fight for me.
Maybe someday I will experience what you are talking about, but it doesn't currently resonate for me. I get the "I love a friend"...thats just fine...but being in love, means I have both emotional and sexual desire
I don't understand the absence of sexual desire when in an intimate committed relationship that is more than "friendship." I hope I never do get that experience!