Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG
I am a monogamous person internally, not one who simply acts monogamous based on exteranl conditionaing and influences.
So you are emotionally monogamous. (Maybe sexually too, I didn't quite get that from your descrition of affair.) Does that exclude you from being polyamorous? That's the question here. With a somewhat less specialized notion of love than your "love without sex is friendship", I think you would check all the way on Ariakas' list, wouldn't you?