I hope you do get to meet her. It would be very helpful. I can see distinctly what it is that my nerdist loves about me now that I have experienced who he is attracted to. It makes me laugh actually and love him all that much more. She probably will have very similar traits to you in various ways but you are also completely different. No doubt you are unique in every way and he cares and loves you for it... good for you for taking the exploitative approach and attitude. It will serve you well to look at your feelings from out side of them and see them as a thing of interest rather than a threat.
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