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Old 05-08-2010, 09:25 PM
capricorny capricorny is offline
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Default For me, symmetry and balance are two different things in polyamory

Originally Posted by YGirl View Post
Definition of symmetry: (Wikipedia)

Symmetry generally conveys two primary meanings. The first is an imprecise sense of harmonious or aesthetically pleasing proportionality and balance;[1][2] such that it reflects beauty or perfection. The second meaning is a precise and well-defined concept of balance or "patterned self-similarity" that can be demonstrated or proved according to the rules of a formal system: by geometry, through physics or otherwise.

(Unfortunately, I was unable to find a Wiki definition of "balance" that uses the word "symmetry", thereby exhibiting a lack of meta-symmetry between the two definitions.)
The basic property of symmetry, geometrically, is that you can apply a transformation, and the objects looks the same afterwards. A balanced configuration can be highly asymmetrical, and I don't want balanced principles for polyamory, I want them symmetrical. So there is a real identity between you and me, as far as the principles go. The balancing enters not when formulating the rules, but when applying them. If you stick blindly to symmetry then, you will probably do more harm than good, for example like "he wasn't telling me all the important facts, so then i won't be telling him either."

Last edited by capricorny; 05-08-2010 at 09:29 PM.
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