Originally Posted by Zenchild
"Poly is about relationships and love, not about sex.
Just a heads up that may not represent the opinions of many monos...but it does mine. If my ex wife had of said this to me because she fell in love with someone I would have simply said, "great..I'm glad poly isn't about sex..So you won't need to have it with him and that's cool. Enjoy your friendship."
Don't try to skirt the pivotal role sexual intimacy plays in the fulfillment of the relationship you want to pursue. Poly without sex is just a friendship in most of the mono peoples' eyes I know. It is to me.