I agree 100% This enlightenment thing with learning to accept others into a relationship and the conversion from mongamy to polyamory is not an overnight adjustment. One thing I am discovering is where my feelings of jealousy and loss come from. I fear lossing him completely. Even though I am in another relationship with someone I love very much, I don't want to lose Caleb. One of our pivotal discussions has been about the increased need for both of us to hear I love you more often and keep our bond close at heart. Suprisingly, we have gotten closer over just the past few days. Change is scary...this definitely counts as change! Thank you for you insight and I look forward to hearing more!