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Old 05-07-2010, 10:55 PM
NeonKaos NeonKaos is offline
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When this happened with me, I felt comfortable enough and confident that the "other guy" was not a threat to my marriage to say "Hon, I might as well just come out and tell you that I am in love with you and Y." Of course, he had kind of suspected that there were feelings brewing because I had been talking to the other guy nonstop on the phone and not keeping it on the DL. I should also add that he already knew I'm freaky and I was already "allowed" to get involved outside of our marriage with women.

Long story short, if you have a stable healthy relationship with your partner it probably doesn't matter HOW you do it (and if your relationship is NOT stable and healthy you have no business adding more people to it). Just remember to be kind and listen to what he has to say and give him a chance to take it all in. Sometimes it helps if you take a shot of your favorite 80-proof before you go ahead...

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