Well my dear-with a year or 5 on your hands, it sounds like the perfect time to get started on improving yourself!
Seriously-no cattiness at all.
The one thing we are TERRIBLE about neglecting is self-improvement. ESPECIALLY when we are in a relationship.
Take a chance on yourself!
And to quote Ygirl on Kat's thread-if you change who you are for someone else and not because it's what you really want/need for yourself-it never works out well.
You have to be true to yourself before you can be true to ANYONE else.
"Love As Thou Wilt"